CHARACTER & PERSONALITY ETHICS
Character
Primary Ethic
– Belief that success is based on basic principles of effective living. People experience true success and enduring
happiness as they learn and integrate these principles into their basic
character. Character ethic is
foundational and catalytic and the core of it encompasses the following
principles which enables to us to develop value-based motives.
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Integrity
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Humility
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Fidelity
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Temperance
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Courage
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Justice
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Patience
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Industry
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Simplicity
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Golden
Rule
“Search
your own heart with diligence, for out of it flow the issues of life.”
Vs.
Personality
Secondary Ethic
– Belief that success is more a function of personality, of public image, of
attitudes and behaviors, of skills and techniques that lubricate the processes
of human interaction. The personality ethic focuses on social image
consciousness, quick fixes, techniques, image building, social band aids and social
aspirin that masks chronic problems and only address acute problems which may seem
to be fixed but only resurface again and again to become chronic.
Human
& Public Relations Techniques
- Developing
techniques to get other people to like you – NOT Beneficial
- Faking
interest in the hobbies of others in order to get them to do what you
want - NOT Beneficial
- Using
“The Power Look” to intimidate – NOT Beneficial
- Learning
to intimidate your way through life – NOT Beneficial
- Learning
manipulative techniques to influence people – NOT Beneficial
- Learning
‘Power’ strategies – Possibly Beneficial
- Education
in the field of ‘Influence Strategies’ – Beneficial Secondary Trait
- Personality
Growth – Beneficial Secondary Trait
- Communication
Skill Training – Beneficial Secondary Trait
- Forming
Image Building Ideas - Beneficial
Secondary Trait
- Acknowledging character as an ‘ingredient’ of success but only compartmentalizing it - NOT Beneficial
Positive Mental Attitude – PMA
- Maxims or Sayings:
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‘Your
attitude determines your altitude’
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‘Smiling
wins more friends than frowning’
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‘Whatever
the mind of man can conceive and believe it can achieve’
- Developing
and using strategies to build positive attitude – Beneficial Secondary
Trait
- Embracing Motivational ideologies to rev yourself up and create impetus – Beneficial Secondary Trait
PRIMARY
Vs. SECONDARY GREATNESS
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We
may have become so focused on our own skill building that we are devoid of the foundation that holds all of it up. Trying to use human influence strategies
and tactics to get other people to work better, be more motivated and to like
each other without exuding the core-values foundation of integrity, and the
‘golden rule’ will only be seen as duplicitous and insincere, and will never be
successful in the long run.
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Duplicity
breeds distrust and in the end, everything that you are trying to achieve will
be perceived as manipulative. It makes
no difference how good the intentions or how wonderful the rhetoric; if there
is little or no trust, the foundation has not been built for any kind of
permanent success.
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Trust
is the glue of life. Only basic goodness
gives life to technique. To focus on technique alone is like cramming your way
through school. You sometimes get by;
maybe even get good grades, but if you don’t pay the price day in and day out,
you will never achieve true mastery of the subject you study or develop an
educated mind.
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Try
cramming on a farm. Everyone would
agree; it’s ridiculous. Forget to plant
in the spring? Play all summer, then ‘cram’ in the fall to bring in the
harvest? The farm is a ‘natural
system’. The price must be paid and the
‘process’ followed. You reap what you sow.
There is no shortcut. This
principle is also true ultimately in human behavior and human relationships.
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Human
relationships are also ‘natural systems’ based on the law of the harvest. In an artificial social system such as work or
school, you may be able to get by if you learn how to manipulate the ‘man-made’
rules to play the game. In most
short-lived human interactions, you can use the personality ethic to ‘get by’
and make favorable impressions through ‘charm’ and ‘skill’ and pretending to be
interested in ‘other people’s hobbies’, etc.
You can pick up easy techniques that may work in short-term
situations. But secondary traits alone
have no place or permanent worth in long-term relationships.
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Eventually,
if there isn’t ‘deep integrity’ and fundamental character strength, the challenges of life will cause true
motives to surface and human relationship failure will always replace short
term success.
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People
who only possess the secondary greatness to, for instance, strive for social
recognition, or recognition of their talents, or strive for wealth, or
prestige; but lack primary greatness or goodness in their essential character, will
see it affect every long term relationship they will ever have. They eventually end up creating havoc and
chaos involving everyone around them, because they are using technique alone. There
is no primary greatness of character. No
character ethic.
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Whether
it is with a business associate, a spouse, a friend, or a coworker, it is only primary
greatness of character that communicates eloquently. If there is not a core-values
foundation to build upon; no matter how emotional or determined we actually feel
while saying the words, they will always be superficial. Manipulation, then, wins at being the only
way we communicate. Without primary
greatness of character, trust and truth cannot thrive and any relationship, no
matter how strong we think it is, will wither and eventually dissolve.
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